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The
Life-Leadership Paragon
A
Personal and Professional Leadership Model
The Life-Leadership
Paragon model identifies three essential skills necessary to
personal and professional leadership. These three skills synergistically
surround the fundamental life-principle of being Complete
Within Oneself. Furthermore, if one does not have these
skills, he or she will simply not be effective in dealing with
others. This model was developed by Doug Kelley and serves as
the foundation of his Assertiveness workshops, writings, and
work with
Empowered
Recovery, as well as the
KTS
Assertiveness Profile.
Self-Acceptance:
The first step in correcting personal faults is to accept
oneself unconditionally. Empirical evidence has shown that
most often Passive people have low self-acceptance, and
therefore, low self-esteem. Passive
people need to work on boosting their own self-esteem, and
learn to stand up for themselves knowing that they too are
entitled to the same good things in life as anyone else—no
more, no less.
Self-Responsibility:
This means to take personal responsibility for one’s past,
present, and future. It means to own up to one’s mistakes
and not shift the blame. However, it also means not taking
responsibility for others’ mistakes when they should take
responsibility themselves. One cannot be an Assertive Leader
if he or she does not accept self-responsibility, or denies
another the human right and obligation of doing so. An
Assertive Leader will never do for others that which they
could and should do for themselves.
Respect
for free will:
Aggressive behavior is what happens when one lacks respect for
another’s right of Free Will. Passive behavior results when
one does not respect his or her own right of Free Will.
Assertive people respect both their own right of Free Will as
well as that of others. Aggressive people must remember that
life is not all about them, and also the fact that everyone
else is entitled to the same good things in life as they
are—no more, no less.
Those who respect Free Will also do not try to change or
control others. Instead, they endeavor to have a positive
impact on them.
SELF-Completeness:
When Self-Acceptance, Self-Responsibility, and Respect for Free Will,
are combined, a certain synergy is achieved. Synergy
means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
Assertive people have achieved this synergy in that they have
grown to be Complete Within Themselves. They have a strong
sense of self, a healthy self-concept, and healthy
self-esteem. They know who they are and why they are who they
are. They do not consider themselves as better than others,
but by the same token, they do not consider themselves as
worse than others. They are able to stand on their own two
feet, which means they not only stick up for themselves as
necessary, but also refuse to walk on others.
People who are Self-Complete go out and happen to life; they
don't let life happen to them.
WHAT
THE SYMBOLS MEAN:
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The
triquetra (meaning "triangle") is used to
represent the necessary connectedness between the three
skills, which connects them with a never ending line. |
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The
pentacle (star) also uses a never-ending line and is used
to represent Self-Completeness and the life-balance that comes from the three
skills combined and honed. |
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The
straight vertical line represents the latent power
over oneself to accomplish greatness. |
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The
sun simply represents the synergy of Self-Completeness. |
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